Fashion Stories & Dirty Laundry

Seven years ago I started a journal for my son. I can’t take credit for the idea as I read about legacy writing somewhere else and decided to do the same.

It’s a journal ‘to him’ and ‘for him’ to open when he’s older – perhaps at 18.

Some is just fun stuff and milestones. For example, the age he first walked to his favorite foods as a baby to his first words. His funny sayings such as when he pronounced “lobster” as “monster”. Or one of the more hilarious questions at the ripe age of 4, “Is this dammit traffic, Mommy?” I’ll never forget that one.

The journal includes a list of his Halloween costumes, his birthday parties and cake themes. To date, there are 10 each of those lists. I know they’ll be sweet to read when he’s a young man, and become increasingly special as he starts his own family someday.

We all have a history. It’s important to record, capture and mark the details of our loved ones’ lives. I also believe it helps parents and other family members capture their legacy.

The journal includes snippets of advice from his mom.

My latest journal entry is a portion of song lyrics in process.

The basic theme is giving your best, not your ‘left-overs’, to those you claim are important to you.

Crumbs & Fumes      Lyrics by C.Nor

My Son, if you learn a few things from your mom in life

Take heed to this…

Do not give crumbs to women

Nor fumes to your children

Give them the best fruits of your time, heart and soul

Give those you love the best, not second best left-overs

Be authentic, be active, not passive

Be kind, not just nice

Be loving, but make sure you’re lovable first

Give the richest cakes of your life, not the crumbs

If and when you have children, be there for them

When you’re tired, when you don’t want to, when you’d rather be somewhere else. Do it.

Love when it’s inconvenient, tiresome, boring,

Love when you don’t ‘feel like it’

And that is why true love reveals itself in the fires of life and sorrow

Never give up

And remember those who never gave up on you…